Which of these is doing the will of God?
A married couple,who had an extravagant and beautiful wedding, wrote and spoke vows of loving devotion to each other; but whose marriage was full of verbal and physical abuse, as well as infidelity.
Or a couple who never marry, but they live together faithfully, adoring each other and honoring each other?
Or how about this:
A teenager who tells his parents that he was invited to a party where there will be drinking. His parents tell him he is not allowed to go and he tells them that he respects their decision. On the night of the party, however, he sneaks out the window, goes to the party, and drinks with his friends.
Or a teenager who lies to his parents, tells them he is sleeping over at a friends house, but goes to the party. After being there for an hour and drinking one beer, he realizes he doesn’t want to be there. So he leaves, goes home, and sneaks into his room.
The gospel of Matthew has a story in it, Jesus tells it to some religious leaders, who were questioning Jesus' authority as a teacher and healer. A man had two sons. The father goes to his son and tells him to go into the vineyard and work. The first one tells his father to his face that he will not go, but later has a change of heart and goes. The second one knows the right answer and says that to his father’s face, but does not go into the vineyard to work. Which of these obeys his father? This parable is about respect and integrity. Respect for authority first. It all started with a question about Jesus’ authority. Who authorized the work he was doing? What were his credentials? What leader gave Jesus permission to do what he was doing and say what he was saying? Of course this question is coming from people who know the answer, an answer that threatened their own leadership and authority. They know that Jesus would say it came from God. And if they choose to believe that, they are submitting themselves to Jesus as God’s prophet and messiah. If they reject his claim, they will lose the popular vote. He had many followers. He could lead a revolt against the temple, undermining their authority over the people. The problem they had with Jesus was that his message and his actions were empowering and life-giving for the masses of humanity who lived on the edge of survival; his message and work gave hope to people living on the margins; outsiders, the powerless, and the poor. This undermined the hierarchy and threatened the status of the wealthy and the powerful. Doing that is dangerous. Jesus was unafraid. He did not play by their rules.